For the past six months, there has been a box in our freezer, holding the top layer of a frozen cake, that is six months away from being thawed and savored (read devoured). While the box merely contains a frozen mixture of flour and sugar and eggs, it is almost as if our wedding day and all the wonderful things about it are there too, frozen inside that box.
I once heard an interview on NPR with Wendy Sherman and Andrea King Collier, co-editor and essayist, respectively, of the book Wedding Cake for Breakfast, a collection of 23 essays about the first year of marriage. The split-second I heard of that 8 minute interview inspired the name of this blog. Our Frozen Cake is a symbol of our first year, of us (continually) figuring out marriage, of the day that began our life-long journey. I wanted this blog to be our little space, our piece of the cake that is the world wide web, where we can share and celebrate not only our first year, but our marriage and the adventure of it all.
For six months we have been Mr. & Mrs.
For six months we have been wed.
For six months, we have been best friends on a crazy journey.
And it was so fun to celebrate that!
Q: Favorite thing about being married?
M: Remembering that I am married. For me, big moments in life, if they are not traumatic, happen like other moments, no matter how long I have thought about them, dreamed about them or planned for them. The engagement, the wedding, the honeymoon...all these moments just became part of life. They were not separate from the 24 hours I am always given. I expect them to be so crazy that something will drastically change and life will forever be altered. But they are just like this moment now, typing this blog. Those moments are a bit more special, but time does not change, and life keeps moving.
I think I expected everything to change, and so when life, for the most part, continues to go on like usual, I often forget or don't consider that I am married. I am married! And it is the best! When I look at Byron and realize that he is my husband , and that we are married I just think it's crazy, but I love it. Life with B is the best.
B: Dreaming about the future; but knowing that it's not too far out of reach or unattainable, because I have such a great partner.
Q: What is something new you have learned about your spouse?
M: He thought apple fritters were called bear claws. He knew I liked apple fritters, and surprised me one morning with one. Well, with what he thought was one. At first, we didn't talk about it. (Couldn't break the poor pup's heart!) Later, we had the apple fritter vs. bear claw conversation.
I love the silly little things like this we have learned about each other. With marriage came living together, and eating together, and spending almost all our time together. We have learned a lot, and these little things all add to why I love him more.
B: I saw a new and stronger passion for her creative ventures this month. I like to see that.
Q: What is one life lesson you have gained from "married life?"
M: Fear not. Of course, as a person of faith this should be a standard, but it is hard thing to do. It is a little less hard when there is a constant support system by your side.
B: Give things a go. Don't plan too hard. Sometimes it's better just to go for it!
Q: Looking forward to the next six months, what do you hope to accomplish in your first year of marriage?
M: Well, we already expanded our family...what else is there to do?
B: I would like to have a job that could provide more for us and allow Maggie and I to give more focus to our creative "side projects." I hope that in a year's time we would be able to share those things with our community and the world!
Q: Three words to describe your marriage at the 6 month marker:
M: Young puppy love.
B: Successful, humbling, and joyful!