1, 2, 3, 4 Months of Marriage!

by Maggie Griffin

This month, we both tried out some new looks! People are telling us we look more alike...

Q: Favorite moment of the fourth month?

M: This month was full of house projects and super big decisions...regarding curtains and pillows and kitchen utensils and all things house related...I am so pleased with everything. I cannot explain the feeling of having a home together--it is bliss. My favorite moments have been sitting outside on our plastic patio furniture or on our little bench out front and chatting about our hopes and dreams. 

B: After moving in and finally getting settled, I loved having friends over. We had a hamburger cookout with Brad and our other newlywed friends, the Jones'. A few weeks later, we had a bring your own dinner night and watched 'Return to Oz,' a creepy '85 sequel to Wizard of Oz. 

Q: What is something new you have learned about your spouse?

M: His fear of bugs. Here's what happens: we see a bug and freak out. We both know they are harmless, but we cannot imagine having their legs on us, so we both waste time arguing over who will kill it while the sneaky little roach gets away. After a strategic house spray by my fearless warrior, this has been occurring less frequently, quite seldom, in fact, but any sighting still makes us jump & squirm.  

B: Her ability to kill bugs. I can't deal with the flying bugs or cockroaches and sometimes she is able to.

The current backyard set up...work in progress, but such a great place for conversations!

Q: What is one life lesson you have gained from "married life?"

M: Communication. Constantly. So often we (humans) hide what we are thinking and try to read the other person before offering our ideas. This is no bueno. Byron and I are continuing to learn, especially this month, that we must be forward with our thoughts. We have to stop trying to read the other person first and just express ourselves, then compromise and negotiate and converse. 

B: I feel like we talked more with our families this month, which I liked a lot. We asked for lots of input rather than trying to figure out everything on our own. We both place a great value on our family relationships, and it is fun to figure out how that plays out in marriage. 

Q: What project/hope do you share this month?

M: I would love to continue working more on the house; I have so many ideas...we just need more money. I also want to get our schedule established. With B back in school, and me starting my second 'term' at work, plus every thing we're involved in revamping for fall, we are a few weeks into figuring out what each day will look like and what our weekly schedule will be. I hope to establish some fun weekly traditions and find time to relax and reenergize together.

B: I would like to sit down and figure out what my next semester looks like--my first semester after school. I want to have several conversations about what we want that time to look like, what we want to accomplish, what we hope to do together.

Also, more salads. I like 'leafs' now. And to figure out a workout schedule. 


Friends over, Maggie's birthday celebration!, sleeping puppies...

Q: Three words for the fourth month:

M:  New, decorating, 23.

B: Slowly, settling, maturing...(like a great bottle of whiskey)

*BONUS! Eleanor update! *


Finally...we seem to be settled. But, we also keep making 2 hour drives to Dallas, so not really. Because of this, I was acting a little less energized, less of myself, more apathetic. Mom and Dad were very concerned about me.

My parents took me to the vet because of my unusual behavior, but I walked away happy and healthy! I met a new friend, Dr. Dodson, who said I ate a flea and got tapeworm, which probably made me even more unusual. I blame the neighborhood dogs. 

They bought me a new bed (only after they got a very comfy, bigger bed)  which I like alright, but I prefer to army crawl under their bed. They also bought me the bones I love. I hadn't had one in a while, but I got the hang of it again.

I love my big backyard. At first, I only got to go out for a minute to do my business; now with slightly cooler temperatures, I am allowed to play to my heart's content while mom and dad chat outside.

Life is good.